Throughout our life and awakenings we experience many points when a certain decision changes the course of everything. These decisions are driven by questions that we ask ourselves. The right question drives the motivation and focus farther than we can imagine. This process involves quieting the mind, asking for what direction you want from your heart and letting the intention go. The hardest part is trusting that something out there has your back and wants you to succeed and you can’t actually screw it up. For the first few years of my business, I would wake up every morning and ask the question, “What can I do to get more clients today?” And then I would wait for inspiration or motivation to move me in that direction. Some days there was not much. Maybe I would send an email or reach out to a potential referral partner. But on occasion some kind of miracle would happen.
One such time, I remember like it was yesterday. I was having a rough week, one of those weeks where you just want to quit everything. I was 4 or 5 months into running my massage business. I was wondering: how am I going to cover rent for the office, am I doing the right thing following this entrepreneur path, who am I to think I could make this business work? But I got up that morning and asked the question. “What can I do today to get more clients?”
At lunch time I decided to go get a burrito. Unfortunately, there was some construction and a detour, and my time was running out, so I ended up at a grocery store. Not where I wanted to get lunch. Honestly, I was pretty frustrated with the traffic, the fact I couldn’t get my burrito, and I was not really looking forward to having a cold sandwich from the grocery store. So there I am, standing in line waiting to check out, pretty aggravated, and the gentleman in front of me turns and says “Hey Nate!” He is a client of mine from my previous job who I lost contact with. We have a short conversation about my business and location and somehow I actually have business cards on me. He tells me he will be in touch. Within a month, he booked. But that is not the miracle. This client owned a sizable business with a partner and two managers and they decided to have the company pay for massages for each of them, twice a month. This was just the boost of confidence I needed to keep going and the income from their eight massages a month covered my rent, exactly. I could not have planned a better outcome or even thought that a stupid detour could actually be in my favor and put me exactly where I needed to be for the questions and intentions I was setting. The set up has changed over the years with these clients, but some of them are still regulars, great referral sources, and I am grateful for them everyday.
Since this occurrence, I have had many other seemingly coincidental experiences of being in the exact right place at the right time. The questions have transformed and I still ask many everyday. The answers that come are always better than what I can expect when I trust that the intention comes from my heart. And everytime I am stuck in traffic or have to take a detour, I wonder what new miracle is heading my way.
Some other questions I use regularly are:
How can I be more kind today?
What does my business want from me today?
How can I show up more in this situation?
What strength am I not aware of that can solve this problem I am facing?
What energy can I embody to serve this client in their and my highest good today?
What can I receive from this situation?
What am I not seeing right now?
Who wants to show up for me today?
How can I be more present right now?
How can I listen to my inner guidance even more?
Any question you ask from your heart with an open ended answer will get the energy moving and start leading you in that direction, whether it feels like it or not. Trust that you are exactly where you need to be for that intention to play out. We can’t control the outcomes of these things, only set our trajectory and be willing to be present enough to pay attention to how it is showing up for us.
Nate Ewert, RMT. Owner of Somatic Synergies Integrated Bodywork and Intentional Path Wellness; Founder of Denver Hiking Club.